Just wondering a simple little question today. Is it that hard to be nice? I know sometimes it seems hard to be nice when someone isn’t complying with your required intelligence level for communication and I am guilty like everyone but some places seem harder than others to illicit a nice response or interaction with someone. Whether its on the phone or in a store or on a city sidewalk it sure seems tough to get peeps to be nice.
I’ll tell you one place where it isn’t too difficult though….In the country. Now by country I mean rural area. maybe its because you depend on your neighbor if shit hits the fan or because you can’t just go to the store when you run out of toilet paper…..I dunno. But I can tell you in my experience it seems easier to have a pleasant interaction with someone in the country than on the street.
Sure there’s an initial assessment on what the f@ck you are doing on their property but after a quick explanation things are usually very cordial. Im thinking of all this because today I was out in Taymouth with the phenomenal Bruce Devlin scouting for a location so we can shoot some press pics for the band. We were trying to find out who owned a particular gravel pit so we can ask permission to use it. I know some peeps might say “why not just go ahead and use it”? well I’ll tell you….1. they might need to work there when we are there and 2. although country folk are nice, i myself was raised in the country and know you don’t just go tramping around someone’s property without askin’.
Anyhow, we met a fella on the side of the road who’s name was Luke. Very nice chap. After assessing that we weren’t casing the area he had no problem telling us who owned the pit up the road and then also didn’t mind taking us across the road and down to the river where his grandfather has an old gravel pit that is no longer in use. Not only did he give us the tour but he was kind enough to give us permission to use it at our leisure. Thanks Luke. Mighty kind.
Would this happen in the city? I can’t say for sure it wouldn’t but people sure do seem more content to be about themselves don’t they. Now here in the maritimes this isn’t as bad as say in a larger metropolitan area but it still happens. So i’m imploring folks to go out of their way to be a little kinder to each other and note the difference it makes in your day. I spent my whole youth trying to get out of a rural New Brunswick and spent my twenties living in cities all across Canada. Now that my hair is not just brown I find myself longing more and more for the country life and its friendly atmosphere. Maybe thats old age setting in early or maybe its just me having a more difficult time adjusting to people’s shockingly unfriendly demeanor. I know everyone has a bad day and we can’t all shoot rainbows out of our asses all the time but since i have tried to be nicer to folks (i really believe my miserable demeanor was killing me) iI have enjoyed a much happier quality of life.
so go ahead, I dare you to try and be nice to everyone you meet. Now these things should be eased into so you don’t snap but try and hour or an afternoon first then up it to a day, hell go for a week. I warn you it isn’t easy but it CAN be done. And as silly as i sound here, it IS rewarding. Be nice people, i dare ya!